Gender Differences In Astrology Consulting

I do a good number of astrology consultations and almost all of them are with women. Less than 5% of my clients are men and I’ll tell you right now, it may as well be 0% because it does not work out and I think I have figured out why.

I am very direct in my communications. I am the kind of astrologer who will tell you exactly, very precisely what the situation is and overwhelmingly, the women I consult with take my advice.

They take it because they can see or sense it will lead them where they want to go. They take it because I am older and they respect that.

An Objective Point Of View

I am doing consults today and it struck me as it does sometimes how impossible it is for most people to get an objective point of view. I love this work even though sometimes it is dirty.

It is dirty because there are times you have to tell someone something they don’t want to hear but I like doing this and I’ll tell you why. It’s because it helps them but just as importantly it spares their friends!

Astrology Consulting: Focusing On The Client

I wonder if other astrologers have rituals when they do consultations, I know I do.  It’s a bit of a terror to do this kind of work, at least it is for me. I know I can read a chart but that is hardly enough. You’ve got to be able to communicate!

I am very aware that the client is relying on me to make something happen in the time allotted. They want some value for their money and I almost always do but not without some hi jinks! I do have some things I do to insure the client gets the best I can offer.

Astrology And Pandering

pan·der (pndr)
intr.v. pan·dered, pan·der·ing, pan·ders
1. To act as a go-between or liaison in sexual intrigues; function as a procurer.
2. To cater to the lower tastes and desires of others or exploit their weaknesses:

I have worked with thousands of clients over the years. Last week I was forced to end a consultation right in the middle of it, offering the client a refund which is something I have never done before in my career. I have refunded a person’s money because they weren’t satisfied with my work once or twice but never, even encountered anything like this before. I just couldn’t get through the consult because the client and I were at cross purposes.

Avoiding Burnout As An Astrologer

Recently I hired a PsyD to work with my son and I to help us recover from family trauma.  He’s got 30 years in the psych business but he still listens intently. He is thoughtful and chooses his questions carefully to guide the session.  He is  active, not just keeping the chair warm and going through the motions and this is inspiring to me.

I think there is probably an arc most counselors follow. At first they’re too green to do you much good. They go on to gain experience and then hit their peak and remain at the top of their game for sometime before burn out sets it. They become jaded or just plain lose interest.

Astrology – It’s Slick And Efficient And People Are Catching On

I’ve noticed a shift over the years of who shows up for an astrological consultation and what they’re after when they do. These days people are far less skeptical. The consultation is a not an “experiment” but taken very seriously.   The client shows up able to articulate their problem and expects the astrologer to come back with solid, usable information as opposed to some kind of vague doublespeak. This is gratifying to me. as it seems people are discovering just how slick and efficient astrology is.

I am not sure if this has to do with me and how I present myself or if it reflects the overall mood in the collective. People do seem to have less time and money to waste and they want results.

I am definitely more comfortable working in these conditions as astrology as a parlor game has never held appeal.

Consulting Benefits The Astrologer… And Committment-Phobia

One of the benefits of working as an astrologer it it helps me on track. It is well known by counselors of all types that you invariably attract clients with experiences or challenges that mirror you’re own.  In my case that means I am going to work with a lot of commitment-phobic freedom loving types.

Astrology Consulting: Dealing With An International Clientele Redux – Language, Dialects And Accents…

Having just reported no problems consulting with an international clientele,  I realized this was an error.  I have not had problem regarding different cultural norms however communication is another story.

While most of my international clients speak English fluently this does not mean they can understand my speech which is rapid by nature.  As far as Americans go I would be considered  to have no accent but dealing internationally is a whole other scenario.

I wonder in hindsight if some clients I spoke with before I caught onto this were unable to understand some or most of what I said because I do talk very fast.  On top of that  my phrasing is often unusual when I really get cooking and I wonder if along the line I have not had clients who understood little of what I said but were too polite to say so.

I’ve learned to be very mindful of this. If I am talking to someone who  I feel has a heavy accent, I keep in mind they are likely thinking the same thing and I work hard to slow my speech.  I take pains to make sure I am actually communicating at the beginning of the consultation and this seems to work well.

It’s pretty easy to figure out where the lines and limits are once you know what you’re looking for and people are very open to this. They are calling because they want to talk to you and taking steps to make sure this gets accomplished is always very appreciated by the client and a lot easier on me as well.

“Are you tracking?” I ask.

“Tracking? Yes, I understand you, go ahead…”

Astrology Consulting: The Challenges Of Dealing With An International Clientele

I really love reading charts and consulting with clients.  I love to help people but besides that I am constantly amazed and entertained.  You think you’ve seen it all but you never have.  It is always a challenge especially online.

If  you are able to work in your neighborhood and make a living that’s fine.  But most people who survive as astrologers are going to be working with an international clientele these days which brings up some interesting questions.   Should you consider a person’s culture?

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